2/23/09

Hard week

This last week was a hard one for me and other women whose blogs I follow. I don't know if it was the moon, sun or just kismet, but we were all feeling overwhelmed by the wait and the lack of information. Reading their posts was like they were reading my mind. I am having a very hard time with the wait and Naing isn't. That actually makes it harder for me, that he can except the wait without any questions and isn't at all emotional about this wait process.
I think what is the hardest is the fact that people think telling me it is only three months is comforting. What about the 7 months of adoption paperwork, 1 year of Naing's green card paperwork and the 4 years of fertility treatments. I haven't been waiting for just 3 months, i have been waiting for over 5 years to be a Mom.
If I could get an update, or timeline on when we will get our referrals that would be such a life line for me. I have actually started to question if this will happen for us, maybe we are not getting any referrals because adoption is changing in Ethiopia. When you don't get any information your mind starts to think up crazy scenarios.

2/16/09

email

Today we got the how are you doing with your wait email from our agency. How do they think we are doing???? They don't call families waiting for their referrals because they don't want to get your hopes up when you see that they called, so they email. We have been waiting for our referral for 3 months. Even though it feels like an eternity, I do know people that have been waiting longer. I'm running out of projects to we can afford to do on the house so these babies better come soon!!!!
Sunshine and Brandon came back home on Feb 14th. They have a wonderful video a friend shot at the airport of them with their twin boys. I can't tell you how many times I have watched that video and cried for happiness for them, but frustration for us as well.
I just wanted to send a one word email, WHEN????

2/12/09

Dental appointment

I have bad gums. I take great care of my teeth, but have been cursed w/genetically bad gums.
So about 6 months ago I had a new laser procedure done on my gums to help stop the gum loss and maybe (keep your fingers crossed) generate new gum and bone growth. Today I had my 2nd check up after the procedure and I got good marks!! Yeah. Now I'm released to go back to my closer to home dentist.

But the cool thing is I was talking to the dental hygienist about our adoption and she gave me great tips for how to start caring for the children's teeth right when we get them home. She also told me and I never thought about this, you should brush your children's teeth until they are at the end of their 7th year. Until they are able to write well they are not coordinated enough with their hands to brush well. I know you just went HMMMM. Never thought of it that way did you?

She has a mother born in India and we were talking about having multi-national families. It was a very enjoyable conversation. Made me almost forget I was in the dentist chair.
The farther I get into the process, I realize how many people have been touched by adoption in some way or know someone that is adopted. Or know someone that is from another country and their journey to the US. It does amaze me how huge the world seems, but it is really quite small.
So as we sit at day 86, yes 86 and waiting for our referrals, all I wish for is that we get our referrals soon. That we can see those sweet faces and know our lives will be so much more enriched by those children from so far away.