Haven and Alec are in constant competition all day long. Competition for my lap, my attention, toys, the blankets, brushing their teeth, singing a song, reading a book, picking a video....on and on all day long, until they are fighting over who gets to say their prayers first. Lord knows, I have tried to be fair with taking turns, each having their own special time with me, but it never seems like it is enough for them.
Is it because they are too alike in their personal experience? Or is it because they are too different? When I try to talk to people about this, I get told, "oh they are just siblings". I wonder when or if I will stop analyzing everything as being an adoption/orphanage thing.
Just when I think they will never get along they show support for each other. Alec is potty training and gets M&Ms when he is successful. He always asks if Haven is going to get one too. She always does, just like he always got one when she was potty training.
Haven and I were having a very bad day today. And I was yelling at her, Alec told me "NO yell at Haven". Sunday Alec wanted to watch The Wiggles and I told him not until Haven finishes her breakfast. He went over and started helping her eat. Of course he had an ulterior motive...but it was so sweet. So maybe there is hope that they will work through this competition phase and move one to being each other's best friend and ally.
Here is some proof that they do like each other's company every now and then.
Reading books together.
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| Alec helping Haven eat, so he can watch The Wiggles. |
1 Kind Words:
They are so, so cute. :)
My twins fight and bicker ten times more than my older kids did. I don't know if it's a twin thing, an adoption thing or just a sibling thing. But it's tiring and maddening. But they also can be so sweet and tender and connected. Who knows? I thought it might make you feel better to share that they even fight over who gets to pee first before bed... and we have six bathrooms. Go figure.
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