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| Christmas Eve Say Cheese |
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| Santa has arrived |
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| What do I do now? |
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| Cooking |
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| Building towers with Daddy |
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| Playing together NICELY:) |
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| Now I know what to Do |
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| I want my picture taken too! |
12/28/10
Christmas 2010
The Birthday boy on his actual birthday
12/17/10
I am now 2 years old!
Alec turned 2 on Wednesday, attitude and everything. My sweet little boy is growing up fast. "I do it" comes out of his mouth all day long. He gets great amounts of joy from tormenting his sister. His new thing is to sit in her lap when they are watching DVDs or reading books. When she tells him to get off, he just laughs and laughs. Stinker. He LOVES, LOVES, LOVES "The Wiggles". He is really getting into the books that are a little more mischievous, like "The Cat in the Hat" and "A Fish Out of Water". I love to listen to him read the book and tell the story. Nothing better than hearing him say "This much and No More" oh that and how cute he says "Curious George". Even his babysitter comes over and asks him to say "Curious George".
I can not believe how fast he is growing up. He says his ABCs pretty well, a few left out here and there. He counts to 10 with prompting. This favorite number is 3. Right now all colors are green, when he was doing really well on identifying colors. When I quiz him with flash cards, he just says green for everything. He is starting to learn shapes.
He is this super loving, warm, caring child that wants to hold and kiss on babies. Whenever he sees a baby in public or on TV he asks to hold it. He loves to carry around Haven's doll wrapped up in a hooded towel and rock the baby in the rocking chair. One day when I sneezed he said bless you and went and got a baby wipe for me to wipe my nose.
He is starting to really build things with leggos and duplos now, not just tear them apart. His forte though is knocking down his sister's towers. He loves to run, climb, jump, dance, sing and play music.
My heart is filled with love for this little boy. When he gives me a hug, squeeze and a big kiss it is the BEST.
Look how far he has come from that sick little baby we brought home last year.
My greatest wish it that he knows he is loved and cherished and his birth Mom somehow knows that as well.
When I look at him, I can't help but think of her and all she gave up for me to have this sweet little guy in my life.
I can not believe how fast he is growing up. He says his ABCs pretty well, a few left out here and there. He counts to 10 with prompting. This favorite number is 3. Right now all colors are green, when he was doing really well on identifying colors. When I quiz him with flash cards, he just says green for everything. He is starting to learn shapes.
He is this super loving, warm, caring child that wants to hold and kiss on babies. Whenever he sees a baby in public or on TV he asks to hold it. He loves to carry around Haven's doll wrapped up in a hooded towel and rock the baby in the rocking chair. One day when I sneezed he said bless you and went and got a baby wipe for me to wipe my nose.
He is starting to really build things with leggos and duplos now, not just tear them apart. His forte though is knocking down his sister's towers. He loves to run, climb, jump, dance, sing and play music.
My heart is filled with love for this little boy. When he gives me a hug, squeeze and a big kiss it is the BEST.
Look how far he has come from that sick little baby we brought home last year.
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| Just home Sept 09 |
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| 1 year old Dec 09 |
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| 2 years old Dec 10 |
When I look at him, I can't help but think of her and all she gave up for me to have this sweet little guy in my life.
12/12/10
Validation
I wrote a few posts ago how I was starting to go see an adoption/bonding therapists to help me learn how to help Haven through some of our struggles. I have always felt like she has had some sensory issues and haven't really been taken seriously. I even talked to her Pediatrician (who has adopted himself) and was told it was "normal" for an adopted child of her age and she was a typical two year old. Many people told me how she was a "typical" two year old. But I still had this nagging voice in my head saying no, this is not normal.
In one of my therapy sessions, I was discussing some of Haven's behavioral issues I have a hard time dealing with and our therapist said...."She sounds like a child that has sensory issues".
Yes, yes, yes, yes. I can't even begin to explain how that little sentence helped me overcome feeling like the biggest failure ever when it came to mothering Haven.
Next step, OT evaluation. We did just that on Friday. I found out not only does she have tactile, auditory issues (both of which I knew) but she also doesn't have spacial awareness (there is a big long word that they use to say that). Now I am so excited, that we have a plan. I know what I can do to help and she is going to go to OT for some therapy and she will be able to help herself. I have hope that we can go to someones house and she will eventually be able to keep her hands off of everything she sees. I don't know how long it will take us to get there, but I have hope. Hope that she can be in a large crowd without wanting to hide in a corner or under a table, hope that the lawn mower won't send her into complete terror next summer.
With this new found hope and our therapy sessions, things are better between Haven and I. We are not having a battle of wills all day long, every day. She actually understands why she goes to time out now and will apologize for the reason she was put in time out without prompting. That is a HUGE step, people. We are having more fun together and our bonding has moved forward.
I went to therapy, because I felt like I had not bonded with her as well as I had with Alec. This whole adoption process is so emotional and has such huge ups and downs, that when you come home and things are not going smoothly you don't want to admit it to anyone. You waited so long to be a family, you want everything to be perfect. Not fairy tale perfect, but family perfect. Our children bonded well to us, there were no underlying issues of orphanage life to deal with and we would grow as a family together perfect. When that didn't happen I felt like a failure. I'm so glad I live in an area where there are people that only deal with adoption issues. If you are having problems, seek help from someone who understands how hard adoption is but also how wonderful adoption is.
In one of my therapy sessions, I was discussing some of Haven's behavioral issues I have a hard time dealing with and our therapist said...."She sounds like a child that has sensory issues".
Yes, yes, yes, yes. I can't even begin to explain how that little sentence helped me overcome feeling like the biggest failure ever when it came to mothering Haven.
Next step, OT evaluation. We did just that on Friday. I found out not only does she have tactile, auditory issues (both of which I knew) but she also doesn't have spacial awareness (there is a big long word that they use to say that). Now I am so excited, that we have a plan. I know what I can do to help and she is going to go to OT for some therapy and she will be able to help herself. I have hope that we can go to someones house and she will eventually be able to keep her hands off of everything she sees. I don't know how long it will take us to get there, but I have hope. Hope that she can be in a large crowd without wanting to hide in a corner or under a table, hope that the lawn mower won't send her into complete terror next summer.
With this new found hope and our therapy sessions, things are better between Haven and I. We are not having a battle of wills all day long, every day. She actually understands why she goes to time out now and will apologize for the reason she was put in time out without prompting. That is a HUGE step, people. We are having more fun together and our bonding has moved forward.
I went to therapy, because I felt like I had not bonded with her as well as I had with Alec. This whole adoption process is so emotional and has such huge ups and downs, that when you come home and things are not going smoothly you don't want to admit it to anyone. You waited so long to be a family, you want everything to be perfect. Not fairy tale perfect, but family perfect. Our children bonded well to us, there were no underlying issues of orphanage life to deal with and we would grow as a family together perfect. When that didn't happen I felt like a failure. I'm so glad I live in an area where there are people that only deal with adoption issues. If you are having problems, seek help from someone who understands how hard adoption is but also how wonderful adoption is.
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